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Thursday, March 29, 2018

Longevity and Happiness

Longevity and Happiness

If you wish to live to 100 and beyond, you must have a healthy body and a happy mindset with the right thinking. More specifically, you need the physical strength to live and survive in the material world, as well as the mental attitude to confront all the changes and challenges confronted as you approach the end of your life journey. In other words, you must be happy.

Human happiness is about the realities in human life experienced by the human mind. That is to say, the humanl as mind plays a pivotal part in human happiness because it is the thinking mind that perceives and processes all those life experiences, turning them into either happiness or unhappiness.

Life is all about experiences, which are thoughts of those experiences composed by the thinking mind. According to James Allen, the author of As A Man Thinketh, men are “makers of themselves” and the human mind is thus the “master-weaver, by both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance.” Accordingly, you may have become who and what you are by way of your thinking mind over the years; in other words, you are the sum of your own thoughts. Therefore, it is important that you understand how your thinking mind works in your life, making you happy or unhappy.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau

Surviving in a World of Depression

Living in a World of Depression

Nowadays, we always talk about gun violence and mental disorder. The truth of the matter is that we are living in a world of depression. Indeed, there are millions and millions who are suffering from this mental disease all around the world. This disorder is as old as age.  

In ancient times, according to the Bible, King David of Israel was often mentally troubled, and he forever battled against his deep despair. In many of the Psalms, he expresses his anguish, loneliness, fear of the enemy; his heart often cries over sin, and the guilt because of it. Another Biblical example is Elijah, the great prophet, who was often discouraged, weary, and afraid. Even after his great spiritual victories over the prophets of Baal, this mighty man of God feared and ran for his life into the desert, where he prayed. “I have had enough, Lord,” he said. “Take my life; I am no better than my ancestors.” (1 Kings 19: 4)

In modern age, Sir Winston Churchill, the Prime Minister of Great Britain, underwent serious bouts of depression during his country’s national crisis in World War II. The fact of the matter is that depression is no respecter of persons—even for those with high I.Q., such as the Nobel-Prize-winning author Ernest Hemingway, who committed suicide, just as his father did, with the comment “I’ll probably go the same way.”

Indeed, many of us are vulnerable to this genetic mental disorder of unhappiness. To many, the word “depression” may be synonymous with the word “unhappiness”; but the reality is that happiness is not the absence of depression. So, even if you are not depressed at all, you may still be unhappy.

The bottom line: how do we overcome this mental disorder? Medications apparently don’t work. We need profound human wisdom to understand how and why we have become unhappy in the first place, and then use the human mind to create a happiness recipe for each individual to survive in this world of depression..

Stephen Lau
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau

Monday, March 26, 2018

The Difference between Happiness and Pleasure

The Difference between Happiness and Pleasure

Man is inherently desirous of happiness. We all want to become happy; without happiness, human existence may become worthless and meaningless. But the continuous quest for happiness is elusive and evasive, just like chasing the wind.

In the human quest for happiness, many choose to avoid unhappiness with distractions—such as going on a vacation, throwing a party, buying an expensive dress, if they have the money; or simply taking alcohol or drugs. But avoiding unhappiness is self-delusional, an unrealistic approach to attaining happiness.

It is important to know the difference between happiness and pleasure.

Pleasure is having fun at a party, the excitement of new experiences, the thrill and passion of sex, or the delights of a fine meal. They are all wonderful life experiences to be cherished and cultivated by any individual, but they are only life pleasures, not human happiness.

The truth of the matter is that all our wonderful life experiences are only to be enjoyed, and then to be let go of, just as a delicious meal is to be enjoyed, savored, and then to be digested, and ultimately eliminated from the body. Therefore, any life pleasure is fleeting and must be so—if it is to continue to please again in the future.

Happiness, on the other hand, may be less fleeting and more enduring than pleasure; but, still, happiness never lasts forever because nothing in life is permanent, and every thing remains only with that very moment, whether it is happiness or pleasure.

Just remember this: Happiness and pleasure are life experiences to be enjoyed, cherished, and remembered—but they do not last forever.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau

Read my most recently published book The Happiness Wisdom to find out how you may become happier. Get your own happiness recipe.

Thursday, March 22, 2018

Natural Recipes for Beautiful Skin

Looking younger means you have beautiful and youthful skin.  

Dark circles around your eyes make you look much older than your real age. Unfortunately, dark circles are only too common. In addition, aging spots, wrinkles, and sagging skin make you look older than your chronological age.

Dark eye circles are caused by bruising on the skin around the eyes, which is the thinnest as well as the most delicate part of your facial skin with many tiny capillaries. Any abrasive action may result in bruising, leading to blood leaking from those tiny blood vessels; the blood leaked out may become oxidized, turning into a dark bluish redyour dark eye circles!

(1) Dark circles around the eyes become more common with increasing age. The reason is that as you age, you skin becomes noticeably thinner, and therefore more vulnerable to abrasion and injury.

(2) Inadequate sleep makes your skin look paler, and hence intensifies the darkness through color contrast.

(3) Stressful work may affect your hormones and general skin conditions, making you look haggard and worn-out, accentuating your dark circles.

(4) Pregnancy or menstruation brings about temporary hormonal changes, which can make your skin look much paler, and hence darker circles around the eyes.

(5) Allergic skin reaction may cause you to rub or scratch your skin more frequently, especially around the eyes, which may unintentionally cause bruising.

(6) Healthy skin requires healthy nutrients from a balanced and healthy diet. Your skin becomes what you eat!

Now that you understand what may have caused unsightly dark circles around your eyes, you should know what to do with the dark circles around your eyes:

(1) Get good sleep habits (such as keeping regular sleep patterns, even on weekends) to maintain adequate sleep without medications.

(2) Learn to cope with stressespecially stress at workwhich may interfere with your sleep and your diet. Meditation is the most effective way to relax both the body and the mind.

(3) Drink more water to cleanse your body of toxins. As a matter of fact, it is good practice to detox your body on a regular basis for optimum health for body and skin.

(4) Avoid the sunespecially tanning salons. A tanned skin only accentuates the darkness of the circles around your eyes.

(5) A cold eyewash compress can constrict the blood vessels and reduce the darkness.

(6) Certain dark eye circle creams do speed up the oxidization process, while certain bleaching creams may also lighten the darkness of the skin around your eyes (but use them with caution around the eyes).

(7) Take a vitamin E capsule, break it up, and dab the content on your skin under your eyes, and then take the remaining supplement.

You always look gorgeous and radiant. Do not let dark circles under the eyes mar your absolute facial beauty. Dark Under The Eye Circles shows you how to use natural home remedies to make you look years younger.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau

Monday, March 19, 2018


I have just published my book: “The Happiness Wisdom”, which is a 161-page book on human wisdom based on ancient wisdom from the East and the West, conventional wisdom, and spiritual wisdom, which may all provide guidelines for choosing the happiness ingredients for your own happiness recipe. In addition, the book also provides real examples taken from real life, illustrating how these real people perceive their realities, and thus leading to their happiness or unhappiness.

Human happiness or unhappiness is no more than a perception of the human mind, based on an individual's own life experiences. You think, and your perceptions then become your "realities"; with profound wisdom, you can change how your mind processes your perceptions. Change your mind to change your realities, and live your life as if everything is a miracle! Your life journey is uniquely yours. Make your own happiness recipe from the happiness ingredients of ancient wisdom, conventional wisdom, and spiritual wisdom. Continue your life journey with your own happiness recipe.

Click here to find out more about the book.

Click here to get your digital copy, and here to get your paperback copy.

Stephen Lau

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Today and Tomorrow

Ernest Hemingway in his book Farewell to Arms described how once he was sitting all by himself as he watched the ants busily working under his feet, and then after a while he stamped out the ants under his feet. Tomorrow, we could become those ants. Today, living in the now ushers us into grateful living, preparing us for tomorrow, which is just another day.

Scarlet O’Hara in Gone With the Wind said at the end of the movie: “Tomorrow is another day.”

Yes, tomorrow is another day, but that day may or may never come. We always choose to believe that it will come. The truth of the matter is that it might never come. Our self-delusion that it will come may give us expectations that often lead us into doing many things to anticipate that our expectations will be fulfilled. This is one of the reasons why many of us have a compulsive mind, such that the mind is forever shuffling between the past and the future,  except staying in the present, which is the only reality; the past was gone, and the future is yet to come.

Living in the now is wisdom in living.  Living in the now is the consciousness of being. Today is now, and mindfulness of the present is realization not only that tomorrow is another day but also that it might never come. This mental consciousness may make us appreciative of what we already have and grateful for not getting what we deserve. Have you ever thought that human birth is unique? Fathoming that mystery may be enough to make you become more grateful for and thankful of your being. 

Tao wisdom focuses on mindfulness, that is, living in the present moment, which is the reality of living. By the same token, Jesus told us not to worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will take care of itself. Living in the now is basic human and fundamental Biblical wisdom. Do you really believe in that? More importantly, do you put that in your everyday life and living?

Stephen Lau
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau

Monday, March 12, 2018

Unhealthy Trans Fat Substitute

Due to the many health problems related trans fat, the food industry has ingeniously come up with another “man-made” fat to replace the now-unpopular trans fat. Well, it may well be a case of “jumping from the frying pan into the fire.”

This new process of making fat is called interesterification, which is a chemical process of making butter-like products from liquid vegetable oils. This chemical process uses enzymes to alter the molecular structure of a vegetable oil so as to give it the properties of a fat. Simply, it involes adding enzymes to a batch of vegetable oil to separate a triglyceride molecule into a glycerol and 3 fatty acids, and through the process of hydrogenation, the vegetable oils become hardened.

Some preliminary testing indicates that interesterified oils have the same health risks as trans fat.

Currently, there is no legislation covering interesterification, and the food industry takes advantage of this to make you believe that the “vegetable oil” you see on food labels of cakes, biscuits, and other food products are “healthy” ingredients.

No matter what is said on the food label, processed food is unnatural food. The more ingredients you find on the food label, the unhealthier it is for you. Eat natural whole foods.

Living and Raw Foods: To eat healthy, go on a living and raw diet.

Organic Food Gardening Beginner’s Manual: A 103-page manual with step-by-step guidelines to help you grow your own healthy organic food!

Stephen Lau
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau

Monday, March 5, 2018

Money Matters

Money matters in life. You cannot do without money. Your money matters to you. But money can often create irrational behavior in rational people, resulting in harmful and even painful consequences in their lives.

Examples of irrational behavior in rational people are:

Money matters so much to some people that they feel so contented and will not even ask for more, even though they may rightly deserve it.

Money matters so much to some people that they simply refuse ever to go into debt, blindly believing in the virtue of being debt-free no matter what.

Money matters so much to some people that they allow their greed to get better of their sound financial judgment, resulting in bad investments. 

Money matters so much to some people that they do not let on about the family finances, such as couples concealing bank accounts or credit card payments from each other.

The Obstacles to Understanding Your Money Matters

You spend more than you earn. You buy things you don’t need with the money you don’t have.

You think you need more money. You save and save. Money has become security to you.

You want quick returns and big payoffs for your money.

You go with the crowd when it comes to investment and spending.

You lie about money, because you measure yourself on the basis of money.

You refuse to talk about money, because you are uncomfortable about it. Or you hate money because it is the root of all evils.

To overcome these obstacles, you must simply do exactly the opposite.

Once you can free yourself from the irrational behavior regarding money matters, you will perceive how money really matters in your life such that you will know how to sell yourself, how to invest wisely, and how to make more money. You will be richer for life—in every way. At the end of the day, your money matters.

One of the objectives of this site is to free yourself from such irrational behavior that prevents you from truly understanding how your money matters to you.

Once your understand how your money matters, you will look at money with new perspectives and you will know how to invest and make your money.

The Myth and the Truth in Investing in the Financial Markets

The myth: The financial markets are dangerous, risky, and unpredictable, and you need expert help to make money.

The truth: The financial markets, over the long term, are steady and predictable. To illustrate, an investor with little or no training, who invested in the S&P 500 Index, would have performed better than the average professional investor with an MBA in finance. This attests to the truth that expert help is no help when it comes to investing in the financial markets. Just empower yourself with knowledge in the field of your financial investment, and do it yourself, as long as you understand how your money matters to you.

Stephen Lau
Copyright © 2018 by Stephen Lau


Thursday, March 1, 2018

Are Eye Exercises Right for You?

According to Dr. William Bates (1860 - 1931), the founder of natural vision improvement, poor vision is the result of eyestrain, due to mental and physical stress on the eye, and hence the distortion of the eye shape, leading to nearsightedness and farsightedness. Dr. Bates strongly believed that eye relaxation holds the key to improving vision. Given that vision health is holistic health, which means it includes the health of the body, the mind, and the spirit as well, the eye exercises recommended by Dr. Bates may help only partially to correct eyesight. Eye relaxation begins with the mind first, and not the eye. The mind must be completely relaxed before it can relax the body—and then the eye, which is only one of the organs of the body. In other words, eye exercises can relax the eye only when the body is also completely relaxed. You can relax the body and the mind through meditation.

Given that natural healing always takes time, natural vision improvement through eye exercises also takes time. Eye exercises are instrumental in both relaxing and strengthening eye muscles in order to correct eyesight.

However, if you want to have a quick-fix, then eye exercises are not for you. Indeed, many people are unwilling to try eye exercises to improve their vision. For one thing, many are still skeptical about the body’s capability to heal itself; for another, many consider poor vision a handicap rather than a physical condition that needs to be addressed. Indeed, many people believe that their poor vision can easily be fixed with eyeglasses or contacts, so they do not see the reason to use tedious eye exercises to correct their vision.

Practicing eye exercises has to be diligent and consistent. In addition, it is recommended that you stop wearing glasses or contacts as much as possible. That means you must get yourself accustomed to blurry vision around you as a result of not wearing eyeglasses or contacts. In addition, you must not strain to see clearly when your vision is blurry. The only promise is that you will see clearly only when your vision improves, and not before. All these pre-conditions may turn many away from the use of eye exercises to correct vision.

That said, eye exercises in conjunction with body and mind relaxation can indeed improve and correct eyesight. You have nothing to lose, even if you cannot completely dispense with your eyeglasses or contacts—at least your vision may not deteriorate any further with age. The bottom line: wearing eyeglasses or contacts will never improve your vision; they will only make it worse, not better.

If you really want to improve vision, go for eye exercises. If, on the other hand, you want a quick fix, maybe you should go for glasses or contacts. The choice is yours. Remember, if you do not want vision self-healing, you may not want self-healing in other health issues you may have—you may end up being another victim of the sickness industry, which also includes the optical companies.

Also, read my book NO EGO NO STRESS to find out how the ancient wisdom from China may help you live a stress-free life as if everything is a miracle even in this contemporary material world. Reduce your stress to have better vision.

Stephen Lau
Copyright © 2018 byStephen Lau