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Thursday, October 11, 2018

How to Save Your Marriage

The rate of divorce is skyrocketing in the United States, and the U.S. Census estimates about half of marriages end in divorce.  According to relationship experts, the number of long-term relationships heading towards separation is becoming more frequent with a longer life span and a growing acceptability of divorce.
What some experts are saying is that people divorce because they have a longer lifespan, and that divorce is no longer a social taboo.
The bottom line is that marriage is not a dress that you throw away when it no longer fits you. If you find that your body has outgrown the dress, you can slim down so that you can fit into the dress again, or you can have it altered so that it can fit into you. In other words, life is about changes, and so is marriage. You just have to adapt yourself to these changes, and that makes it challenging and interesting. You don’t just walk away from a marriage because you don’t like it anymore. A marriage is a lifetime commitment for thick and thin, for better and for worse.
"Staying in exactly the right relationship to one another is a very hard thing to maintain every decade," said Pepper Schwartz, professor of sociology at the University of Washington. "People think you only get closer over time, but that's not necessarily true."
The breakups of couples married for several decades are "cold divorces," characterized by disengagement, distance and isolation. These kinds of divorces are the products of a gradual buildup. The problems may have festered to the point where no one cares.
Marriage counselors say there are benchmarks in a typical marriage where divorce is more apt to occur.
First, divorces often happen during the initial two years of marriage when the expected honeymoon period is replaced with the reality of getting accustomed to each other's attitudes and living habits. A second point for divorce is around the five to seven year mark, where children are typically born.
And divorce can also happen when the kids leave home. Some empty nesters divorce because they no longer have their children holding them together.
One of the best ways to renew marital affection and interest is to face new challenges together, especially in the golden years when there are many new issues in life. Coping with these problems may renew their cooling and dwindling marital love.
Your Golden Years and Santa Claus: This 252-page book has everything you need to know about physical frailty, vision impairment, breathing problems, memory loss, as well as health, money, death, and bereavement issues. This is a comprehensive book on the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of the wisdom in successful aging in the golden years. It provides you with a wealth of information on the art of living well, instead of stereotyping yourself as old and decrepit.



Stephen Lau
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Monday, October 8, 2018

Abundance and Lack


Abundance and Lack

We all want abundance, and not lack. We all desire abundance in education, family, relationships, profession, and money; in particular, nobody wants lack—one thing nobody wants in life. But abundance often creates many attachments in our lives.

The reality is that you can have all the money in the world and still be as miserable as sin. The truth of the matter is that it is love, rather than money, that actually makes the world go round. Everybody is chasing money, and looking for ways of getting more. But if missing out love, a vital ingredient, making the world go round will only guarantee failure and unhappiness.

Another related profound truth is that abundance and lack are no more than a perception of the mind. Everything is relative, including abundance and lack. If one is grateful for what one already has, even though it might be perceived as lack by others, one not only perceives but also makes everything enough.

A Case in Point

At the end of 2007, John Kralik, an attorney who owned a law firm, experienced debts and disasters in both his life and career.

One day, after a walk in the mountains, Kralik became enlightened: as his 2008 New Year resolution, he decided  to write a thank-you note a day for the rest of the year to every one he knew.

Kralik’s 2008 “gratitude project” had changed his life completely. Instead of his feeling of discontent regarding his lack, and his envy of those who had what he did not have, he had learned to be grateful for his law firm, his practice, his friends, and his family, despite the many disasters and drawbacks he had previously experienced. Kralik’s gratitude began to change every aspect of his life. His relationships with his family, his friends, and his staff improved significantly; his law firm avoided bankruptcy, and turned around completely.

Gratitude is something that you get more only by giving it away more. Expression of gratitude generates happiness that overcomes the unhappy feelings of lack.

Stephen Lau        
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Thursday, October 4, 2018

Happiness: Anything Is Everything


To become a better and happier individual, you need love, compassion, and altruism. These are the attributes necessary not only for redeveloping or reshaping your personality but also for sustaining yourself in this aggressive and ever-changing world. They are the daily foods for your soul to provide you with happiness, inner satisfaction, and joy.

Humanity and Self

Without compassion, you lack self-confidence, which often gives way to anxiety, fear, and insecurity. Compassion enables you to see your own connectedness with others, and you are not alone all by yourself. Once your inner world becomes imbalanced and disharmonized by a lack of self-confidence, you lose your inner calmness, without which you cannot properly utilize your wisdom. Without wisdom, you mind becomes obsessed with negative thoughts of self, leading to wrong actions and toxic consequences. This is where Tao wisdom may come into play by diminishing your ego-self and letting you focus more on others, rather than solely on yourself. Letting go of the ego-self may help you develop compassion and cherish a sense of responsibility for humanity.

Anything and Everything

Awareness of your own responsibility for humanity may enable you to rein in your temper and inhibit your anger. Better understanding of humanity lets you acknowledge the destructive forces of anger, and thereby instrumental in reducing their strength. Your short temper can benefit from Tao wisdom, which shows you the importance and necessity of embracing all—the easy and the difficult, as well as the pleasant and the unpleasant. In life, difficult and unpleasant experiences not only train but also enhance you mental stability to control your temper, which often undermines your compassion for others. Tao wisdom teaches you not to pick and choose but to embrace anything and everything in life because any situation in life can make you become either a teacher or a student. Life is about anything and everything that you can learn from, and this is where true wisdom comes from.

Understanding that anything is everything may also make you see things very differently. People and things do not exist independently. When there is long, there has to be short; they do not exist simply because of their own nature. Everything in life is not only relative but also related. Viewing any life situation—whether it is good or bad—with this profound human wisdom may help you see that anything is everything, In other words, any life situation is not under its own power but depends on many present causes and conditions, as well as many past causes and conditions; otherwise it could not have come into being. With this perspective, you can see much more of the whole picture, and thus you can see the reality of the situation.

For instance, in economics, if you just go after profit, you may end up with corruption. Failure to look at the whole picture that anything is everything means your failure to see the reality of everything in life. Failure to see the reality means your outlook becomes distorted and exaggerated, and thus leading to inappropriate actions or reactions. To illustrate, if a person or an event causes anger and hatred, the ugliness of anger and hatred is often exaggerated when the whole picture of the reality is not seen. An unreal mental projection of the exaggerated ugliness of anger and hatred may result in disproportionate actions or reactions that result in unhappiness.

Always look at self and others from the whole perspective that anything is everything, and you may become a better and happier you.

Stephen Lau        
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Monday, October 1, 2018

Make Your Golden Years "Golden"!


The golden years are one of the last phases of life, if not the very last. To be in the golden years is having passed the milestone of 65.

In this phase, many are burdened with memory loss, physical impairment, and sexual inactivity. Nutritional deficiency due to a dysfunctional body, a weakened heart and hardened arteries resulting in less blood being pumped into the body organs and systems, compromised immunity response leading to virus infections and diseases, a troublesome digestive and elimination system causing constipation, toxin buildup, as well as bladder, kidney, and liver problems—they all play a pivotal role in the gradual and steady decline and deterioration in health and overall well-ness of the body, the mind, and the spirit. In the end, what are left behind are aches and pains. In this phase, many are also emotionally devastated by loss and bereavement of their loved ones, haunted by their own regrets and frustrations in the past, and plagued by fear and despair of the future.

The golden years may not be “golden” for everyone. Aging, like death, is something that can be denied or even ignored but, ultimately, cannot be avoided.

How do you feel about your own aging? Are you happy about your golden years?

If you really think growing old sucks, just look at Santa Claus in his golden years. He is cheerful, robust, and energetic. He is enjoying every minute in giving presents to children. He is having fun and a good time while riding his sledge and going through chimneys. Just think about all his new and exciting adventures!

How do you feel about your own aging? Are you happy about your golden years?


If you really think growing old sucks, just look at Santa Claus in his golden years. He is cheerful, robust, and energetic. He is enjoying every minute in giving presents to children. He is having fun and a good time while riding his sledge and going through chimneys. Just think about all his new and exciting adventures!

Subjective Perception


Feeling about old age is no more than a subjective perception of self. It is always the “glass is half full or half empty” attitude of looking at life. More specifically, it is how you view your own life “in the eyes of the beholder” who is yourself.

“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” Oscar Wilde

If you have strong self-efficacy, which is your self-belief, you will retain control of your life at any age; you will feel competent and capable to seek any opportunity to better your life; you will develop empathy and compassion for all those around you. Most importantly, you will overcome worry, which is self-disabling and self-destructive pessimism, a common attribute of the elderly. According to a study of the Harvard School of Public Health, Americans are pessimistic about their health. To illustrate, according to the study, 40 percent of Americans believed  they would get breast cancer  at some point  in their lives, but only 10 percent actually got the disease. A case in point, actress Angelina Jolie had her breasts removed out of her belief in the reality of becoming yet another breast cancer victim.

 

Negative Stereotypes

 

To change any negative subjective perception of aging, you must first of all remove all negative stereotypes associated with aging or the elderly. Aging is not a disease, neither is it only despair and disability. You should not view aging as a personality homogenizer, that is, at some point in time, like everybody else, you will lose your individuality and fall into a common category known as the elderly, or the senile and the decrepit.

Make your golden years really “golden” and live your life as if everything is a miracle.

 

Stephen Lau
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Thursday, September 27, 2018

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This book is about the art of living well, which is being in the material world we are all living in, but without being of this mundane world. This daunting and challenging task requires profound human wisdom, which comes from TAO wisdom, the ancient wisdom from Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China, more than 2,600 years ago.

Lao Tzu was the author of the immortal classic Tao Te Ching, made up of 81 short chapters of Chinese poetry on human wisdom, one of the most translated books in world literature.

This book explains the essentials of TAO wisdom, based on Stephen Lau's own translation and interpretation of Lao Tzu's immortal classic Tao Te Ching with his comments after each of the 81 chapters. Living for life is the wisdom of living in this contemporary age. It is not easy, so you need TAO wisdom.

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The TAO of Living for Life shows you the wisdom of living not just for yourself, but also for others as well --  just as the famous English poet John Donne says: "No man is an island."  Once you perceive this intricate inter-connection between people, you will self-intuit the wisdom of Lao Tzu.  After all, according to Lao Tzu, there is no word or blueprint for human wisdom -- it is all about self-intuition.

Stephen Lau


Monday, September 24, 2018

Money Matters


Money matters in life. You cannot do without money. Your money matters to you. But money can often create irrational behavior in rational people, resulting in harmful and even painful consequences in their lives.

Examples of irrational behavior in rational people are:

Money matters so much to some people that they feel so contented and will not even ask for more, even though they may rightly deserve it.

Money matters so much to some people that they simply refuse ever to go into debt, blindly believing in the virtue of being debt-free no matter what.

Money matters so much to some people that they allow their greed to get better of their sound financial judgment, resulting in bad investments. 

Money matters so much to some people that they do not let on about the family finances, such as couples concealing bank accounts or credit card payments from each other.

The Obstacles to Understanding Your Money Matters

You spend more than you earn. You buy things you don’t need with the money you don’t have.

You think you need more money. You save and save. Money has become security to you.

You want quick returns and big payoffs for your money.

You go with the crowd when it comes to investment and spending.

You lie about money, because you measure yourself on the basis of money.

You refuse to talk about money, because you are uncomfortable about it. Or you hate money because it is the root of all evils.

To overcome these obstacles, you must simply do exactly the opposite.

Once you can free yourself from the irrational behavior regarding money matters, you will perceive how money really matters in your life such that you will know how to sell yourself, how to invest wisely, and how to make more money. You will be richer for life—in every way. At the end of the day, your money matters.

Once you understand how your money matters, you will look at money with new perspectives and you will know how to invest and make your money.

Stephen Lau
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Thursday, September 20, 2018

The Miracle of Saliva

Saliva is a clear, watery fluid made by the body's salivary glands located inside each cheek at the bottom of the mouth and ears, as well as near the front teeth by the jawbone.

Saliva plays a pivotal part in human health -- it is a miracle of recovery and rejuvenation.

According to Eastern medicine, human saliva has miraculous healing power. Research in a recent Japanese study indicated that saliva can fight cancer cells in rats and other animals.

For thousands of years, Chinese physicians have believed that saliva has all the ingredients for optimizing longevity and overall wellness due to its inherent benefits on the five human organs: the heart, liver, spleen, lungs, and kidneys. Saliva is anti-aging because it promotes cell growth and cell division -- a key factor in internal nourishment and rejuvenation, without which the aging process accelerates. In addition, saliva strengthens bones ad teeth, cleanses and detoxifies the body, aids digestion of food and assimilation of nutrients. Ancient Chinese physicians even used the sufficiency or insufficiency of saliva as part of their disease diagnosis.

Saliva is a miracle in itself because it is your body's built-in self-made fluid for self-defense against viruses and infections. Harness the power of that miracle to your advantage, and this is how:

  • On waking up each morning, stand erect.
  • Gently exhale through the mouth three times to rid your body of toxins accumulated during your sleep.
  • Close your mouth, and begin hitting your teeth for 30 seconds as if you were chewing food in your mouth.
  • Then, slowly massage your teeth with your tongue for 30 seconds.
  • By then, your mouth should have generated some saliva. Do not swallow it immediately. Close your eyes, and visualize that your are swallowing the saliva and it is slowly dripping down to the dan tian, which is the "energy center" of your body. Dan tian is located in the lower abdomen between the navel and the pubic bone. Physically, it corresponds to the functions of digestion, elimination, and reproduction. Psychologically, it functions by promoting a sense of physical balance and stability. Dan tian is also a source of power for physical energy, sexual vitality, and inner power as emphasized by the Chinese Qi Gong exercise.
  • After the mental visualization, then slowly swallow the saliva.
  • Repeat this on waking up and before going to bed.

Do not undermine the miracle of saliva. In addition to the above daily practice, make your own saliva as much as and as often as you can during the day. You can always increase your saliva by thoroughly chewing your food before swallowing ; it is also good practice to let your food remain in your mouth for a little longer, say, a few seconds, after chewing before swallowing it (this also applies to drinking liquid). Induce your mouth to make more saliva. Make the most out of the miracle of saliva.

Also, to find out how to increase mental agility through saliva, go to How Saliva May Increase Mind Power.

Stephen Lau

Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Sunday, September 16, 2018

My Favorite Yin-and-Yang Dish


We all love to eat. However, we must remember that we eat to live, and not live to eat. Some foods are more stimulating than others. Too over-stimulating foods, however, over-stimulate the nervous system, and therefore may not be beneficial if they are consumed too much. Caffeine, for example, has been said to kill vitamin B in the body; although it has immediate uplifting effect, its long-term effect is undesirable.

In Chinese diet, the emphasis is on balance and harmony, rather than stimulation. Any external stimulus may prevent this expression of harmony from within.

Chinese diet is all about balance and harmony. Chinese diet is yin and yang (the female and the male, respectively)—using foods to balance and complement each other for optimum health rejuvenation and wholesome wellness. These two opposing forces in Nature balance and complement each other, thereby resulting in perfect harmony, without which there is only internal chaos, leading to disease and accelerated aging.

One of my favorite recipes is Fruit and Vegetable Curry.

Ingredients:

3 bananas, sliced
3 tomatoes, diced
1 small onion, sliced
4 whole cardamom pods
2 apples, sliced
raisins, a handful
cranberries,  dried and sweetened, a handful
raw almonds, a handful
pumpkin seeds, a handful
1 stick of cinnamon
4 cloves
1/2 inch ginger
1-2 tablespoons of curry powder to taste

Put all ingredients in a pot. Bring to boil, and simmer for 20 minutes. Serve with brown rice.

I just love this nutritious dish. It is simple and easy to prepare.

Stephen Lau
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Monday, September 10, 2018

Healing Exercises


Use exercise to heal, because it has to do with the mind, the body, and the spirit. Natural healing is holistic healing, which is healing of the body, the mind, and the spirit. In order to heal, the mind must have the intent to heal, and the body must be ready for healing; during the healing process, the spirit must be energized to overcome any setback or obstacle that may interrupt with the healing process. Exercise can heal the body, the mind, and the spirit.

For exercise to be effective, it must be a regular routine that shows discipline; just like the mind that must be disciplined and focused in the pursuit of natural healing. With the right exercise mindset, you can use exercise to heal not just the body, but also the mind and the spirit. Exercise can be instrumental in healing virtually any disease.

Exercise increases the heart function by stimulating blood circulation to optimize blood pressure, and to enhance lung efficiency by increasing the input of oxygen to the lungs. Regular exercise promotes both heart and lung health.

Exercise boosts the immune system. Aerobic exercise may have significant and particular benefits for people with type 1 and type 2 diabetes by increasing insulin sensitivity, lowering blood pressure, improving cholesterol levels, and reducing body fat. For those people with multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's disease, and Alzheimer's disease, exercise may improve mobility and reverse muscle atrophy by reducing spasticity in neurological disorders.

A number of scientific studies indicated that regular exercise reduces the risk of colon cancer, prostate cancer, and even breast cancer. Use exercise to heal cancer.

Exercise increases the supply of oxygen to the brain, and thus enhancing brain function, making the brain younger for longer. It can even create "high" through the release of endorphins, which are euphoric substances in the brain. Regular exercise is good for overall mental health.

Regular strenuous exercise relieves any built-up tension, and thus is effective for stress control and stress management. Stress is one of the main underlying causes of disease. Use exercise to heal distress.

Low-impact aerobic exercise, such as jumping rope or a bouncer, significantly improves the body's circulation to benefit detoxification, which holds the key to holistic healing. The body must be ready for healing, and the removal of toxins provides the optimum environment. Exercise detoxifies both the body and the mind through increased blood circulation and movement of lymphatic fluids. Use exercise to heal through detoxification.

Yoga is an excellent example to illustrate how you can use exercise to heal. Yoga is more than an exercise: it is a science that has been practiced for thousands of years, based on ancient theories, observations, and principles about the connection between the body and the mind. The intrinsic healing benefits of yoga have been proven by modern medicine.

Yoga not only provides the body with the most practical approach to attaining a high level of physical fitness, but also stabilizes emotions and elevates mental attitudes. In other words, yoga unites the mind, the body, and the spirit in holistic health. Essentially, it is a holistic approach to wellness and natural healing. Through acute awareness of the body's posture, alignment, and patterns of movement, as well as the focus on natural breathing, yoga is therapeutic in that it helps the body find true harmony, thereby healing the body, the mind, and the spirit.

Also, use Taoist exercise to overcome insomnia or get natural sleep, perform this simple Chinese Taoist exercise:

Lie on your back. Bend both knees.

Use both hands to pull your knees towards your chest, and breathe naturally.

Hold for one to two minutes, and relax.

Straighten your legs, putting your arms and hands at your sides. Relax for one to two minutes.

Take a deep breath, and stretch both arms upwards above your head.

Then, slowly bring your hands down while you breathe out.

Massage your body from your chest to your abdomen for a few minutes.

Bring both hands at your sides, and relax.
Repeat as necessary until you feel drowsy and fall asleep.

This exercise is good not just for insomnia, but also for your lower back pain, if it is performed on a hard surface.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau

Thursday, September 6, 2018

Detox the Mind to Detox Cancer


Detox the Mind to Detox Cancer 
“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” George Bernard Shaw
Your mind is your being, and your brain is the most important of all your body organs because it controls your whole being. How you think, what you do, how you act and react, and what you do with all your life experiences—they ultimately become not only your memories but also your realities.

Cancer is a complex and multi-faceted disease. It involves not just your body systems, and your body organs, but also your mind. Scientists have attested to the inter-connection between the body and the mind. In other words, a toxic body may lead to a toxic mind, and vice-versa. That is to say, having cancer may adversely affect your mind, how it thinks, how it reacts, and how it makes choices and decisions; by the same token, a toxic mind may not only cause cancer but also undermine the prognosis and the recovery of cancer.

Do you have a toxic mind?

You may have a toxic mind if you have depression, or you are regularly suffering from episodes of unexplained sadness.

You may have a toxic mind if your love relationships are always under stress and strain, and your children are forever rebellious and uncontrollable.

You may have a toxic mind if you are always on the verge of good health and success, but you never quite seem to be getting them.

You may have a toxic mind if you have achieved some accomplishments in your life, and yet you are forever plagued by frustration, and never quite seem to be enjoying the fruits of your success.

You may have a toxic mind if you find yourself struggling with something that you can neither identify nor understand.

You may have a toxic mind if you always feel a long, evil arm stretching from the past, trying to grip hold of you, and pulling you back from reaching your life goals and realizing your dreams.

You must detox your mind in order to increase your mind power not only to avoid cancer but also to cope with cancer if you unfortunately have the disease.

 Read my book: Congratulations! You've Got Cancer to find out how to use your mind and body not only to prevent but also to combat the disease.

Stephen Lau
Copyright©2018 by Stephen Lau

Monday, September 3, 2018

Love and Marriage


The rate of divorce is skyrocketing in the United States, and the U.S. Census estimates about half of marriages end in divorce.  According to relationship experts, the number of long-term relationships heading towards separation is becoming more frequent with a longer life span and a growing acceptability of divorce. A case in point: former Vice President, who after 40 years of a seemingly happy marriage, decided to separate from his wife, and announced that they would go their own separate ways. 



So what the experts are in fact saying is that people divorce because they have a longer lifespan, and that divorce is no longer a social taboo.



But marriage is about commitment and responsibility. What our society is saying is that individuals have a right to look for something better as long as they have a breath of life in them, or to opt for something more satisfying as long as something is available to them. If that were the foundation of marriage, then why bothered to get married in the first place? Remember, marriage is not a dress that you throw away when it no longer fits you. If you find that your body has outgrown the dress, you can slim down so that you can fit into the dress again, or you can have it altered so that it can fit into you. In other words, life is about changes, and so is marriage. You just have to adapt yourself to these changes, and that makes it  challenging and interesting, and that is what marriage is all about. You don't just walk away from a marriage because you don't like it anymore. A marriage is a lifetime commitment for thick and thin, for better or for worse.


Are you finding yourself in a marriage that you want to get out of, or in a relationship that you don't like?

Only you have the answer.

However, here are some thoughts of Zen wisdom:

First of all, Zen is not an Eastern religion, but an ancient Chinese philosophy based on the wisdom of Lao Tzu, a sage and the author of the famous ancient Chinese classic "Tao Te Ching."

Life is full of problems, so do not strive to seek a solution to all the problems in life. As a matter of fact, too much striving is the source of stress, which may create more stress and therefore more problems than solutions.

Right and wrong co-exist, so do the desirable and the undesirable. In life, embrace what is pleasant, well as what is unpleasant. Just as Sosan, the Zen scholar, said: "To separate what we like from what we dislike is the disease of the mind."

True love is loving without expectations. Love is never having to use someone to make you feel better. Remember, you are who you are, and you are good enough for the one you love. 

Remember, nobody is perfect, including yourself and your spouse.


Stephen Lau

Copyright© by Stephen Lau


Thursday, August 23, 2018

Type of Parenting for Smart Babies


Type of Parenting for Smart Babies

Smart babies come smart parents, who know how to raise and nurture smart babies. However, to be smart parents, you must know your real self.

“Knowing others is intelligence.
Knowing ourselves is true wisdom.
Overcoming others is strength.
Overcoming ourselves is true power.”
Lao Tzu, “Tao Te Ching” (chapter 33)

Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China, rightfully said that to know one’s true self is not easy: it requires profound wisdom. Sometimes we think that we know ourselves—who we really are—but in fact we don’t. Asking probing and self-intuitive questions may help us get to the bottom of the truth about ourselves.

Who are you as a parent?

First and foremost, best parents are not infallible; nobody is perfect, and you are no exception.

Look back at your own childhood. You may have been influenced by how your parents acted towards you. There might have been positive and negative experiences. Now, your goal as a parent is to emulate the positive aspects of your parents, and to avoid repeating their mistakes.

Types of Parenting

Parenting style generally falls into three types, although there may be overlaps and variations.

Authoritative Parents

Authoritative parents often provide an environment of freedom and democracy. They set rules and regulations that their children must follow or obey. However, within these boundaries, children are encouraged to act, speak, and think independently without any restrain or restriction. Authoritative parents are always in control of their children, but they also encourage from their children’s verbal exchange and creative thinking based on different situations and circumstances.

Authoritative parents generally produce happy, smart, and self-reliant children.

Permissive Parenting

Permissive parents are generally accepting and non-punitive regarding their children’s attitudes and behaviors. In many ways, their children’s actions and reactions, as well as their desires and impulses control and determine the parent-child relationships. The only drawbacks are that these children tend to become less self-reliant and initiating.

Authoritarian Parenting

Authoritarian parents are always much in control of the behaviors of their children based on their own standards; they attempt to shape the growth and development of their children. Other than obedience, there is not much room for any compromise or even flexibility. Children under authoritarian parents are generally distrustful, discontented, and withdrawn. Worse, they often become rebellious in adolescence.

The style of parenting is based on the parents’ beliefs, values, personality, and upbringing. To make your baby smart, you need to give him an environment of safety, peace and harmony. Parenting, like marriage, is partnership; make sure that both of you are on the same page.

What type of a parent are you?

Stephen Lau
Copyright©2018 by Stephen Lau