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Thursday, August 23, 2018

Type of Parenting for Smart Babies

Type of Parenting for Smart Babies

Smart babies come smart parents, who know how to raise and nurture smart babies. However, to be smart parents, you must know your real self.

“Knowing others is intelligence.
Knowing ourselves is true wisdom.
Overcoming others is strength.
Overcoming ourselves is true power.”
Lao Tzu, “Tao Te Ching” (chapter 33)

Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China, rightfully said that to know one’s true self is not easy: it requires profound wisdom. Sometimes we think that we know ourselves—who we really are—but in fact we don’t. Asking probing and self-intuitive questions may help us get to the bottom of the truth about ourselves.

Who are you as a parent?

First and foremost, best parents are not infallible; nobody is perfect, and you are no exception.

Look back at your own childhood. You may have been influenced by how your parents acted towards you. There might have been positive and negative experiences. Now, your goal as a parent is to emulate the positive aspects of your parents, and to avoid repeating their mistakes.

Types of Parenting

Parenting style generally falls into three types, although there may be overlaps and variations.

Authoritative Parents

Authoritative parents often provide an environment of freedom and democracy. They set rules and regulations that their children must follow or obey. However, within these boundaries, children are encouraged to act, speak, and think independently without any restrain or restriction. Authoritative parents are always in control of their children, but they also encourage from their children’s verbal exchange and creative thinking based on different situations and circumstances.

Authoritative parents generally produce happy, smart, and self-reliant children.

Permissive Parenting

Permissive parents are generally accepting and non-punitive regarding their children’s attitudes and behaviors. In many ways, their children’s actions and reactions, as well as their desires and impulses control and determine the parent-child relationships. The only drawbacks are that these children tend to become less self-reliant and initiating.

Authoritarian Parenting

Authoritarian parents are always much in control of the behaviors of their children based on their own standards; they attempt to shape the growth and development of their children. Other than obedience, there is not much room for any compromise or even flexibility. Children under authoritarian parents are generally distrustful, discontented, and withdrawn. Worse, they often become rebellious in adolescence.

The style of parenting is based on the parents’ beliefs, values, personality, and upbringing. To make your baby smart, you need to give him an environment of safety, peace and harmony. Parenting, like marriage, is partnership; make sure that both of you are on the same page.

What type of a parent are you?

Stephen Lau
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