Life
is never smooth sailing, and life journey is always a bumpy ride, full of
changes and challenges. Learn to live your life as if everything is a miracle,
including the miracle of accepting and embracing those life problems and
challenges.
To
illustrate, after the death of a dear friend or someone close to you, you may
experience a period of denial—refusing
to accept the harsh reality of death. This is the human mind's way of protecting
us from painful emotions associated with grief and sorrow.
Sorrow may
bring anger: anger with yourself or
whoever responsible for the death of your loved one. The human mind always looks
for an answer or an explanation of why something undesirable happened. If you
blame yourself, then guilt and regret may ensue; if you blame others, anger is
generated.
The next phase
is bargaining with God about
reversing what has happened to you. You use "what if?" and "if
only" sort of pleas to bargain for second chances.
After the initial denial, reality begins to sink in. You start to feel the bereavement that
cause you to sink into deep depression with negative emotions of grief, regret,
and sorrow. This is the darkest or even the longest stage of grief and sorrow.
The only way to
overcome pain and sorrow is accepting and embracing. Sooner or later, you will
come to terms with the death of your loved one when you become aware that
everything is going to be OK, that you will survive the loss of your loved one,
and go on living as if everything is a miracle even though your life may be
different without your loved one.
What causes stress and its related negative emotions?
Your resistance to life is the ultimate cause of your body stress and negative
emotions. You will not experience negative emotions, such as anger, anxiety,
fear, frustration, and sadness if you do not resist anything in your life,
past, present or future. By not accepting something unpleasant in present or in
the past, you have subconsciously created memories that project the unpleasant present
or past experience into the future, and your resisting of the possibility of a
repeat of that present or past experience creates fear and anxiety.
Instead of accepting negative emotions, many of us prefer
not to experience them, and end up resisting not only life but also negative
emotions. Instead of accepting, resisting only leads to more stress and
negative emotions, and thus creating a vicious circle of resistance and stress.
Live your life as if everything is a miracle by letting
go of resistance, and accept what life has to offer. Find your hidden
resistance in your life and learn to embrace it, if you cannot let it go.
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