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Monday, October 17, 2016

Stress-Free With Intellect, Not Intelligence

According to recent CNN health news “Learn to Live with It: Becoming Stress-Free”, use your intellect, and not your intelligence, to manage and cope with your everyday stress.

Intelligence is knowledge, which doesn’t help you with stress; intellect, on the other hand, is wisdom, which may help you coping with stress.

Stress comes from the internal, and not the external. Stress originates from the ego-self. You have an ego, and therefore you “expect” things, people, and circumstances to do things your way to satisfy your ego. If they don’t meet your expectations, they become your stressors. NO EGO NO STRESS. You need intellect, which is essentially human wisdom, to let go of your ego in order to be stress-free. It’s just that simple.

Here is the health news:  

“People the world over believe that stress comes from external sources.

One complains of a nagging wife or hysterical husband. Another finds fault with the demands of work or the exploitation of management. Someone else grumbles at summer being too hot or winter being too cold.

Everyone thus lives with the belief that factors outside themselves produce stress -- so their entire focus is on correcting the external world. Yet despite our best efforts to fix these external factors, the problems remain unsolved and our minds continue to be consumed by stress.

Pleasure or pain, joy or sorrow, peace or stress—these are not found in external objects or beings. They are found in the relationship you have with those things.

For example one person finds pleasure in smoking cigarettes. Another detests them. One man may go to his lawyer to divorce his wife while another waits, desperately wanting to marry her. A cigarette produces pleasure to one, pain to another. The same lady produces joy for one, sorrow for another.

In life, be it with business or family, relationships matter. Lack of a proper relationship leads to frustration and builds up stress. Ironically, people take utmost care to choose the "right partner," but fail to set up the "right relationship" with that person -- and lose peace and harmony in the process.

It is not whom or what you meet in life that matters but how you meet it.
Your relationship with the world is entirely dependent on the nature of your inner personality. Your inner personality comprises two things: the mind and the intellect.

The mind desires and feels. The intellect reasons, judges, and decides.

When the intellect loses control over the mind's desires, you become disturbed. Stress is the mental agitation caused by unfulfilled desires. Thus the fundamental requirement for a stress-free life is to develop a strong intellect and control desires.

Intellectual strength is distinct and different from intelligence. Intelligence is mere storage of information—knowledge acquired from external sources and educational institutions, from teachers and textbooks. Any amount of intelligence cannot, per se, develop your intellect. The intellect is developed by individual effort through exercising one's faculty of questioning and reasoning.

With the lack of development of the intellect, people fail to understand that every human being is distinct and different from another—that each is governed by his or her own singular nature.

Therefore, we should assess the nature of each human individually. But few follow this practice in life. Without making individual assessments you are not able to relate to others properly. As a result, you expect one to behave differently from one's fundamental nature.”

The bottom line: let go of your pre-conditioned mindset to think out of the box to attain intellect, and not intelligence, to live a stress-free life. Get the ancient Tao wisdom from China to reverse your thinking.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau


Friday, October 14, 2016

Wisdom in the Art of Living Well

Wisdom is the essence in the art of living well. Life is always full of challenges throughout its many different phases and stages. To live as if everything is a miracle, we need wisdom, which is different from knowledge; the latter is collection of data, while the latter is the assimilation and application of the data collected. A knowledgeable person is not necessarily wise. Wisdom requires much thinking of the mind, which is the capability to ask questions that leads to asking more questions and seeking answers from the questions asked. Albert Einstein once said: “Thinking is hard, and that’s why so few people do it.” We have to think in order to be wise.

Tao wisdom is the ancient wisdom of Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China, who was the author of the immortal classic Tao Te Ching, one of the most translated works in world literature. Tao wisdom is profound human wisdom that enables you to live as if everything is a miracle.

The interpretations of Tao Te Ching are as many as its translations. Each author is looking at Lao Tzu‘s immortal classic from his or her own perspective, and this is also one of the many reasons why Tao Te Ching is eye-opening and thought-provoking. The Bible and Tao Te Ching are among the most translated and extensively read books of all time, and for a good reason: one is about God’s wisdom, and the other is about human wisdom.

My own translation of Tao Te Ching is based on my belief that Lao Tzu’s masterpiece is about the Creator of the universe, and that with true human wisdom man sees not only the manifestations but also the mysteries of God’s creation. Therefore, without the profound human wisdom, it is often difficult, if not impossible, to understand and thus believe in God.

Throughout the entire script of Tao Te Ching’s 81 short chapters in only 5,000 words, Lao Tzu never used the word “God”, “Creator” or “Higher Being”; instead, he simply used the word “Way”, which, to me, implies the “pathway” to understanding the mystery of God and His Creation. Remember, Lao Tzu was born several hundreds of years before the birth of Jesus Christ.  It should also be pointed out that Tao wisdom, which is the wisdom of Lao Tzu, later on evolved into a religion (Taoist religion) in China; but Lao Tzu never intended his wisdom to turn into a religious belief.

TAO: The Way to Biblical Wisdom is divided into four parts.


The book is about true human wisdom without the “conditioned” thinking of contemporary wisdom. Without the “reverse” mindset of Lao Tzu, man may have difficulties in understanding true human wisdom, let alone the spiritual wisdom of God expressed in the Bible.

Part One is about my reasons for writing the book, and also why Tao Te Ching is a “must read” for anyone who seeks real human wisdom.

Part Two is my own translation of the 81 chapters of Tao Te Ching with respect to the Bible; each chapter is followed by some selected Bible verses for further reflection on what Lao Tzu has said.

Part Three is about the essentials of Tao wisdom with detailed explanation in plain English and with everyday life examples to help the reader understand the profound wisdom of Lao Tzu.

Part Four is an explanation of how Tao wisdom may help the reader understand God’s wisdom in the Bible. Tao is the Way to Biblical wisdom.

To get the digital copy from Amazon, click here; to get the paperback, click here.
Don’t miss the opportunity to get both human and spiritual wisdom.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau



Tuesday, October 11, 2016

The Perfect Alignment

Living a life of balance and harmony is a tall order -- maybe one of the tallest order in life. We all want to do things our way, as well as expect things to happen our way too because we all have an ego-self, which controls and dominates us. The body, with its many desires, affects how the mind thinks. The mind, with its many thoughts and memories, create the desires of the body. The close body-and-mind connection determines how we live our lives. The mind is supposed to control and oversee the body. Without a blueprint and a road map from the soul, the mind may easily become lost while navigating the body along the life journey. The art of living well is to attain perfect alignment of the body, the mind, and the soul to live as if everything is a miracle. 

To achieve this goal of perfect alignment, you need to let go of all your attachments to the material world; you need profound human wisdom, in particular, the ancient TAO wisdom from China.


This 125-page book is about the wisdom to rethink your mind, renew your body, and reconnect your soul to realign your being for total wellness and well-being to live stress-free as if everything is a miracle. In this day and age, living in different phases of life is challenging. For one thing, in this world of technology and information, many of us are addicted to speed, which seems like a prerequisite for success in career and in many others facets of life. As a result, stress is unduly created, which may lead to toxic actions, reactions, thoughts and emotions.

Consciously and subconsciously we have created for ourselves a world in which our bodies, our minds, and souls have become toxic and we live as if nothing is a miracle. To do just the opposite—living as if everything is a miracle—we have to renew the mind, renew the body, and reconnect the soul, and realign the being so that we know who we really are, instead of who we "think" we are.

Believe in yourself: believe that you can be a better, happier, and healthier you. Believe that you can be a centenarian, if you choose to. The only hurdle is stress in contemporary living. Learn how to overcome your stress by letting go your ego-self. No Ego No Stress!


Stephen Lau

Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Thursday, October 6, 2016

Unlocking the Mystery of the Human Mind

Letting go holds the key to unlocking the mystery of the human mind.

Why is it important to understand how the human mind works? The mind is responsible for thinking. Our thinking comes from our thoughts, which derive from our perceptions based on our five senses. Our thoughts then become our memories, stored in our subconscious minds. These subconscious  memories affect our many life choices and decisions either positively or negatives, producing many experiences that become our assumptions and predictions that further change the way we think. In short, our life experiences become the raw materials with which we form not only our realities but also our ego-selves.

Letting go of our assumptions, predictions, and expectations may change the way we think, and thus change our realities.

Very often we are the slave and not the master of our own mind. That is to say, we are dominated by our thoughts which control how we act, react in the physical world. In other words, we are controlled involuntarily by our mind because our mind has too many attachments in the physical world, such as careers, relationships, material comforts, and among others which we hold on to as our security blanket. Human attachment is an addiction to control. We think we can control our fate through attachment, which is no more than our emotional dependence things and people that define who we are and that distract us from fear and uncertainty of the future.  


The human ego is composed of different attachments to the physical world, such as careers, emotions, memories, money, and relationships, among others. The human ego is unreal; it is only a distorted reflection of the real self. The human ego not only confuses the mind but also prevents it from finding out the realities about the self, others, and what is happening around. True human wisdom comes from knowing who you really are, not who you wish you were, and what you really need, not what you want or desire. Attachments are just emotional distractions in the mind from confronting changes in an ever-changing world. Let go of all attachments to see the absolute truths of all things.

The ancient Tao wisdom from China provides a blueprint for nourishing human wisdom: an empty mind with reverse thinking, mindfulness for clarity thinking, living in the present with no expectations of the future, no picking and choosing, accepting and embracing everything that comes in the natural cycle of change—what goes up must always come down. True human wisdom is the ability to understand that attachments are no more than distractions of the human mind from letting go of anything that is impermanent. 

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau


Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Get My Book for FREE


Get your book for FREE from AMAZON from October 4, to October 8, 2016.

This 117-page is based on how I taught my daughter to read some 30 years ago. 

Like all proud parents, I was and still am proud of the fact that I could teach her how to read when she just turned three (most children learn at the age of five). The TV and all electronic devices may not be as effective as YOU, the parent, to teach your child through everyday intellectual interactions, games, and activities. 

This book provides 29 steps that could begin as early as your baby is one-month-old. My daughter became a proficient reader when she was five (reading books with little or no illustrations). By seven, she would not let me teach her anything -- she could find everything from books. It paid off and it's worth all the initial efforts in teaching her to become an early reader. Now she's an attorney in the United States.  I wrote this book because she has recently become a mother herself, and that's why I wrote this book to share my experience some three decades ago.

Don't miss this opportunity to get your FREE book.

Also, read my book" Make Your Smart Baby Super Smart.

Stephen Lau


Monday, October 3, 2016

Congratulations! You've Got Cancer!

One of the underlying causes of human disease is stress. Cancer stress may even add insult to injury. Use your mind to overcome cancer stress.

Get my book on cancer stress: Congratulations! You've Got Cancer! for FREE from AMAZON between Oct 3 and Oct 7. 


This 132-page book is about what to do when one is diagnosed with cancer. I am neither a doctor nor an oncologist. This book is based on a wrong cancer diagnosis of a close member of my family. I simply show you the power of the mind not only in coping with the traumatic experience of a cancer diagnosis but also in overcoming the disease itself. In addition, I present detailed information on what an individual must do on the cancer journey of cure and recovery. A cancer diagnosis is not a death sentence. Rather, it is an opportunity for growth and development. Harness your mind power to combat cancer.

Stephen Lau