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Monday, December 14, 2015

The Wisdom of No Man Is an Island

To be happier, you must become a better individual. Being better means you see your connection with others as well as with everything else. The truth of the matter is that we are all inter-connected with one another, whether we like it or not; no man is an island. This perspective enables you to diminish your ego-self. With a diminished ego, you become not only a better individual as well as a happier one. An inflated ego prevents you from seeing your true self: who you really are, and not who you think or wish you were.

The wisdom of Tao begins with the power of intent in the mind to know and to learn more about the true “self”— after all, wisdom is about self, and about how the self reacts with everyone and everything around. In the quest of wisdom, the revelation of having no ego-self is the turning point, where you may begin to embark on a different life journey with a different mission. Your “conditioned” mind thus begins the journey of “reverse thinking” which will ultimately change your life, making you a better and happier you.

Tao wisdom enables you to see the wisdom in the oneness of all life—that everything exists because of its “opposite” and that everything will ultimately become its opposite, just as youth becoming old age, and life becoming death. Spontaneity, which is following the natural laws of nature, holds the key to attaining true human wisdom to live your life as if everything is a miracle.

Be A Better and Happier You With Tao Wisdom

Part One of my book explains the prerequisites of human wisdom. Without true human wisdom, it is almost impossible to perceive the innate human goodness in self, as well as in others. Human goodness leads to the attributes of genuine human happiness.

Part Two is the complete translation of the 81 short chapters of Lao Tzu's "Tao Te Ching" in simple English for readers to understand the complex and controversial wisdom of “Tao Te Ching.”

Part Three highlights the essentials of Tao wisdom, and shows how it can be applied to contemporary living so that you may live as if everything is a miracle to be a better and happier you.

To be a better and happier you is both easy and difficult: Tao wisdom is easy to understand with an empty mind, but difficult to assimilate its depth and profoundness

To download the digital copy of my book, click here; to get the paperback edition, click here.

Stephen Lau

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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Turning Grief and Sorrow Into Happiness

Happiness makes your life meaningful and living worthwhile. Nearly every one of us pursues happiness. Unfortunately, happiness is like a carrot stick in front of us, forever unattainable. Why?  It is because life is never a bed or roses: it is forever filled with grief and sorrow.

Given that everything is this world is impermanent, grief and sorrow are as inevitable as death.  But don’t let your grief and sorrow make you unhappy over the long haul; protracted grief and sorrow may lead to depression and negative thoughts that may haunt you for the rest of your life. Overcoming grief and sorrow requires an understanding of how you should process your grief and sorrow. Above all, it demands an honest understanding of who you really are, and why you are here.

To illustrate, after the death of a dear friend or someone close to you, you may experience a period of denial—refusing to accept the harsh reality of death. This is the human mind's self-delusional way of shielding us from painful emotions associated with grief and sorrow. 

Then next comes anger: anger with yourself or whoever responsible for the death of your loved one. The human mind always looks for an answer or explanation of why something undesirable happened. If you blame yourself, then guilt and regret may ensue; if you blame others, you cherish anger or hatred towards that individual.

The last phase is bargaining with God or with a higher power about reversing what has happened to you. You may even beg God (or fate) for second chances, using "what if?" and "if only" sort of pleas.

These are the phases that make you unhappy. How do you turn your grief and sorrow into happiness? You need wisdom to know your true self -- who you really are, and not who you wish you were.

Be A Better And Happier You With Tao Wisdom is based on the profound human wisdom expressed in “Tao Te Ching” written by Lao Tzu, an ancient sage from China. The book not only contains the translation in simple English of the complete text of this 5,000-word immortal classic, but also shows you how to attain true human wisdom through asking self-intuitive questions, creating an empty mindset with reverse thinking to let go of the ego-self in order to become a better and happier you.

Happiness plays a pivotal part in the art of life and living well. The mind plays a pivotal role in shaping one’s personality, which is responsible for one’s happiness or unhappiness. In other words, your personality is all in your own thinking, just as Descartes, the famous French philosopher, once said: “I think; therefore I am."

Stephen Lau 
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Thursday, August 13, 2015

Body-Mind-Soul Realignment

Believe in the miracle of body-mind-soul realignment. Your mind controls your body in the physical world, and your soul oversees your mind, giving a blueprint for both your body and mind.  If there is no alignment, there is no balance and harmony. Realignment holds the key to living your life as if everything is a miracle.

As If Everything Is A Miracle: This 125-page book is about the wisdom in living as if everything is a miracle, just as Albert Einstein once said: "There are only two ways to live your life. One is to live as if nothing is a miracle. The other is to live as if everything is a miracle."

This 125-page book is about the wisdom to rethink your mind, renew your body, and reconnect your soul to realign your being for total wellness and well-being to live stress-free as if everything is a miracle. In this day and age, living in different phases of life is challenging. For one thing, in this world of technology and information, many of us are addicted to speed, which seems like a prerequisite for success in career and in many others facets of life. As a result, stress is unduly created, which may lead to toxic actions, reactions, thoughts and emotions.

Consciously and subconsciously we have created for ourselves a world in which our bodies, our minds, and souls have become toxic and we live as if nothing is a miracle. To do just the opposite—living as if everything is a miracle—we have to renew the mind, renew the body, and reconnect the soul, and realign the being so that we know who we really are, instead of who we "think" we are.

Believe in yourself: believe that you can be a better, happier, and healthier you. Believe that you can be a centenarian, if you choose to. The only hurdle is stress in contemporary living. Learn how to overcome your stress by letting go your ego-self. No Ego No Stress!

Stephen Lau


Tuesday, August 4, 2015

The Duality of Human Nature

Man is a complex and complicated being. God has created man in His image. He has given His creation the gift of freedom to choose, and yet He is in absolute control. This paradoxical nature of His creation has puzzled many since the beginning of time.
There are those who believe that man is created in God's image to serve Him; if that is truly the case, man is inherently good. However, on the other hand, there are those who believe that man is inherently bad because of the sin of Adam.

So, the burning question is: Is the nature of man inherently good or bad?

According to many Western philosophers, man from the outset is originally evil. Sigmund Freud, the famous Austrian neurologist and founding father of psychoanalysis, was of the opinion that man is innately evil and aggressive because we are violent on criminals; but that in a civilized society, the law is unable to prosecute the more subtle and smaller aggression of man, which can sometimes be just as evil.

The truth of the matter is that good and evil are only moral concepts that have coexisted since the beginning of time; humans have been categorizing different actions and feelings based on their own philosophical concepts. Good and evil are closely linked together, just like the concept of yin and yang; one cannot exist without the other, and they balance and complement each other. In other words, we are both good and bad.

Essentially, we all have the bright as well as the dark side of life. The Bible calls the dark side of human nature “sin.” None of us is exempt from sin. Life is always an inner struggle between what is perceived in an individual’s moral system as “right” and the dark opposing force inside to do just the opposite as “wrong.” The human concept of good and evil is based on the perception of the mind, which is derived from one’s unique experiences that formed the ego-self of that individual.

The bottom line: to be a “better: individual, that is, to have more good and less evil, one must let go of the ego-self and focus more on others. Admittedly, this is not easy, and that’s why you need wisdom—the wisdom to know what is real and what is unreal, to know the real self, and not the ego-self.

Read my book “As If Everything IsA Miracle” to find out the wisdom in living a better, happier, and healthier life.  

Stephen Lau 
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Friday, July 24, 2015

Dementia Or Forgetfulness?

As we continue to age, we all become forgetful. Memory lapses are not uncommon, but it doesn't mean we all will have dementia.

The symptoms of memory loss and dementia may look similar in the beginning: gradual, and even insidious. When signs of dementia begin to surface, some patients may try to "cover up" or even blatantly deny that there are problems; others may blame others. No matter what, ultimately, the early signs of dementia will become more serious and obvious, and they include the following:

(1) The person is uncharacteristically negative and suspicious. Sometimes it is difficult to tell if it is dementia or not, especially if that person is also suffering from anxiety or depression.

(2) The person is negligent of his or her personal care and grooming, such as not bathing or shampooing. Again, an individual with severe depression may also neglect his or her personal hygiene.

(3) The person has difficulty in conversation, such as repeating the same thing, or talking vaguely without any specifics.

(4) The person has lost his or her motor skills, such as displaying uncharacteristically illegible handwriting, or inability to type or use the computer.

(5) The person is unable to make a phone call, even if he or she remembers the phone number.

(6) The person eats improperly, such as eating only sweets when there is a proper meal.

(7) The person keeps the house badly cluttered and disorganized.

(8) The person shows poor judgment in spending. Again, an individual suffering from anxiety or other mental disorders, such as bipolar depression, may also demonstrate the same behavioral problems in over spending.

(9) Other more dangerous signs of dementia may include: consistently forgetting to turn off the stove; wandering around outside at night; acting inappropriately in response to "paranoid" suspicions, such as calling the police based on paranoia.

If a member of your family demonstrates some of these obvious signs of dementia, be more observant of the behavioral patterns or conditions to see if medical or professional help is needed.

Anyway, it is important to keep your brain healthy through diet and exercise. Your brain has billions of cells, and only a fraction of them are used. Despite the degeneration due to aging, you can still harness your brain power; use it or lose it. 

Stephen Lau
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Friday, July 10, 2015

Happiness and Yoga

Happiness is a state of mind; that is, it is all in your mind. According to Descartes, the great philosopher, you are your thoughts, and your thoughts become who you are. In other words, you are the creator of your thoughts, which then become the substances with which you weave the fabrics of your own life. That is to say, your happiness or unhappiness, to a certain extent, is your own making. In addition, "too much" thinking may also make you unhappy, especially if your thoughts focus on unhappy things.

According to CNN on how yoga may help you realize your resolutions in life: simply resolving to do something isn't enough. You need the means to start on the right path and stay on the course. Too many of us set large-scale intentions but fall short on a follow-through strategy. That's where yoga may come in: the ancient practice can provide the resources and support for a multitude of modern-day lifestyle changes. . . . .

If you want to be happier, your wandering mind is most likely your stumbling block. According to a 2010 Harvard study, 47% of the time of the human mind is thinking about things that aren't happening. Understandably, spending half your life lost in thought is considered a major cause of unhappiness.

How can yoga help a distracted and wandering mind? Yoga is a practice based on mindfulness that emphasizes using your breath to consistently connect to the present moment. It also teaches you how to breathe deeper and use meditative techniques to tap into your parasympathetic nervous system to reduce stress and increase happy hormones. "

You must be mindful of your breaths, which is a way to re-focus your mind on the present moment. If you have a compulsive mind—that is, constantly thinking of the past and the future—you are not living in the present; not living in the now means your mind is obsessed with past memories and worries of future happenings. Remember, the past was gone, the future is unknown, and only the present is real. Therefore, the key to happiness is slowing down your compulsive mind. Yes, yoga is an exercise that may do just that.

Read my book Be A Better And Happier You With Tao Wisdom. It shows you how to live your life as if everything is a miracle. The book is based on the ancient wisdom of TAO from ancient China. True human wisdom requires you to be mindful of what is going on in your mind, and be mindful of others through love and compassion; mindfulness holds the key to understanding who you really are and what you really need in your life in order to be a happier individual.

Stephen Lau
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Monday, April 13, 2015

Why Are You Unhappy?

Are you happy or unhappy? If you are unhappy, why not?
Be A Better And Happier You With Tao Wisdom is my most recent publication. This 132-page book is based on the profound human wisdom expressed in “Tao Te Ching” written by Lao Tzu, an ancient sage from China. The book not only contains the translation in simple English of the complete text of this 5,000-word immortal classic, but also shows you how to attain true human wisdom through asking self-intuitive questions, creating an empty mindset with reverse thinking to let go of the ego-self in order to become a better and happier you.
Why is happiness important? It plays a pivotal part in the art of life and living well?  In my previous book, The Book of Life and Living, I stressed the critical role of the mind in shaping one’s personality, which is responsible for one’s happiness or unhappiness.
In other words, your personality is all your own thinking, just as Descartes, the famous French philosopher, once said: “I think; therefore I am."

Erik Erikson, the famous psychologist, also stated that the evolution of our personality is affected by different life stages of changes and experiences we have gone through resulting in who and what we have now become -- that is being happy or unhappy.

Trust and Mistrust

In the first stage, from birth to age one, we experience and develop our trust or mistrust that affects how we feel about the benevolence of the world around us.

Independence and Doubt

In the toddler stage, we begin to develop our self-trust, which leads to independence. With self-trust, we begin to learn how to walk. In this stage, we may also develop self-doubt that leads to shame later in life. This may also lead to failing to take risks in later life, resulting in missing golden opportunities to improve our lives, and thus making us feel unhappy and unfulfilled.

Creativity and Guilt

In preschool years, we begin to exercise our minds to acquire initiative and express creativity. The capability to express them freely may help us to develop the playful and positive side of our nature. Under restraint, on the other hand, we may develop guilt, lack of self-confidence, and the inability to get close to others.

Industry and Inferiority

From age five to eleven, we experience fulfillment in accomplishment or disappointment in failure. This is often a result of acquiring our society's work ethics. We begin to believe in our abilities and feel motivated to work hard. On the other hand, if we become lazy, we develop poor work habits that may adversely affect our careers later in life.

Identity and Diffusion

In adolescent, we begin to explore ourselves, finding out who we are and what we want out of life. We may channel our energy into a field we love, and derive pleasure from seeing what we have accomplished. This growth in our sense of self determines whether or not we have an identity crisis.

Intimacy and Withdrawal

In early adulthood, we develop intimacy, which is a quality of an individual, and not the couple. The ability to develop and maintain a long-term relationship is an asset. However, many of us may experience difficulty in achieving closeness with others, or even maintaining a long-lasting relationship, resulting in inner loneliness that causes us to doubt even our own remarkable accomplishments in life.

Compassion and Selfhishness

In middle age, we become more connected to future generations, as evidenced by being parent,s mentors, and supervisors. However, we may also become self-focusing, alienating ourselves from the next generation, and thus creating the "generation gap."

Ego and Despair

 In old age, by letting go the ego, we accept both our successes and failures, and thus have a healthy perspective on life. However, we may also look back at our own past experiences and the world in general with disdain and regret, and thus we become despaired and unhappy.

Remember, nothing is set in stone. Even if you have formed your personality over the years, you can still change it to make yourself become a better and happier person if you have the wisdom and the know-how. Nothing is too late. You can still live your life as if everything is a miracle

Stephen Lau 
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Saturday, March 28, 2015

One True Life Obligation

You may think you have many life obligations, such as taking care of your loved ones, your family, and your career, among others. But there is only one true life obligation: to be who you are.

We are all created to be in this world for only one purpose: to be our true self, and not to be what we wish we were. Conventional wisdom tells us to find our role model, pursue our life goals based on that role model. Accordingly, we begin to dream that we are someone else that we are not. This is how we create an ego for ourselves.

What is an ego-self? Simply look at yourself in front of a mirror. What do you see? A self reflection. Is it for real? Can you touch it? Not really; it is only a reflection of something real--you!

Now, do something slightly different. Place a baby in front of the mirror, if there's one available. The baby may crawl towards the baby in the mirror. Why? Because the baby thinks that the baby in the mirror is another baby, and not his or her own reflection.

My point? The ego-self is unreal: it is only a reflection of your thoughts; that is, your ego self is what you think or hope you are. The ego-self is formed over the years, transforming you into someone else. Therefore, your one true life obligation is to be the person standing in front of the mirror, and not the reflection in the mirror.

What's wrong with being the reflected person in the mirror? \For one thing, it is unreal. For another, if it is a positive image, you expect to sustain it; it it is a negative one, you hope to avoid it. To illustrate, if you have accomplished something wonderful, your mind creates your ego, making you believe that you are really wonderful; you will then repeat doing what you have done in order to protect and sustain your ego.  By the same token, if you have failed to accomplish something, you have a deflated ego; you will then avoid doing the same thing in the past in order to expect a different outcome in the future. The moral lesson: be who you are, and do what you need to do or want to do, but without any expectation, which comes from the false ego-self. Remember, you are neither better not worse; you are just who you are. It is the expectation to protect or sustain the ego that leads to picking and choosing, and in the process creates undue stress that is the source of all human miseries.

All in all, God will not judge you for your success or failure, but He will judge you for not being who you are meant to be. After all, He created you for a specific purpose for being your true self and act accordingly. Never ever compare yourself to others!

Read my book Be A Better And Happier You With Tao Wisdom. Remember, you were created to be good and happy, so don't let your ego mess up your life.

Stephen Lau
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Thursday, March 19, 2015

Why You Need to Love Yourself

We’re living in a world of conflicts and wars, but love still plays a pivotal role in our lives. Love involves our feelings and emotions; love gives us both happiness and pain. When the love is fulfilled, we feel happy; when the love is rejected or unfilled, we feel pain. 

In Christianity, love refers to the love of God and the love of one’s neighbors or even enemies. In Buddhism, love refers to an awakened state of mind; the word “Buddha” means “wake up.”

If you want to love others—no matter they deserve your love or not—you must love yourself first. .
Ironically enough, it‘s not easy to love yourself, let alone loving others, especially those you’re not particularly fond of.  

To love yourself is not as easy as you may think.

You may be judgmental: being hard on yourself, and feeling your inadequacy in spite of some success in your life. That is, your accomplishments to date may not be good enough for you, and therefore you want more.

You may have a pre-conditioned set of criteria for yourself, based on the self-image you have created for yourself, such as being too fat.

So, the first step is to change your perspectives of how you look at yourself or others. If there is anything you wish to change, then make the effort to change it. If you can’t, then accept what you cannot change. Self-acceptance is an important ingredient in the expression of love. If you cannot accept yourself, there is no way for you to accept others, let alone loving them.

To initiate any change, you must be mindful of why you need to change, and how to go about making the change. Mindfulness holds the key to discovering how you think and feel about yourself. 

Empty your mind of any pre-conditioned thinking or conventional mindset. For example, many of us are ingrained in our minds that the purpose of life is to enjoy—that has led to our quest for materialism. Another example, many of us have the belief that we all have inherited badness from the Fall of Adam, and therefore we may feel guilty for not being good enough, and thus leading to depression. 

All in all, to be able to love others, you need to love yourself first. To do just that, you need to empty your mind, and be mindful of the need to change your perspectives and to accept what you cannot change.

Read my book Be A Better and Happy You With Tao Wisdom to find out how to have a loving and compassionate mind with Tao wisdom and live your life as if everything is a miracle.

Stephen Lau
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Monday, March 9, 2015

Human Natural Gift

We were all born with a natural gift -- freedom from anxiety and fear, expectation and regret, ambition and disappointment. However, as we grow older, we knowingly or unknowingly abuse or misuse that natural gift.

This is how.

We begin to develop our sensations and become affected by them. We all have our five senses: seeing, hearing, touching, smelling, and tasting; they then become our perceptions and sensations that are stored as memories in our subconscious minds. Over the long haul, these accumulative experiences form our beliefs and personalities, and make us who we are. In other words, these memories become our bondage and we no longer have that innate freedom.

It is difficult to regain that natural gift once we have relinquished it. To illustrate, if we experienced something unpleasant in the past, we might have anxiety and fear that it would happen again. On the other hand, if we experience something pleasant, we would expect it to happen again; our expectations begin to precondition our minds to do certain things that we think will enable us to fulfill that expectations; by doing so, we pick and choose; any wrong choice or decision may lead to regret. By the same token, disappointment may be the consequence of ambition. 

How do we regain that natural gift?

Understand the natural cycle of things. Everything follows a natural cycle: what goes up must come down; the cycle is like the four seasons, or day and night. We, as humans, naively believe that we can change the natural order of things, deluding ourselves into thinking that we can make things happen the way we want them. Not following the natural order stems from the human ego. Accepting things as they are is the pathway to true human wisdom  It is by no means a passive outlook of life: we do what we can, and no more, and with no expectation and no judgment, 

“Good fortune and misfortune are all in one.
Seeking one and rejecting the other,
we become completely confused.”
(Chapter 58, Tao Te Ching)

 “There is no gain without loss.
There is no abundance without lack.
We do not know how and when
one gives way to the other.”
(Chapter 42, Tao Te Ching)

Stephen Lau

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Thursday, February 26, 2015

How to Live in the Now

Today is now and tomorrow is another day, and that to live well you must live in the now.

Living in the now is easier said than done because the human mind has a tendency to focus on the past or to project itself into the future, but seldom stays in the present.

Our actions or inactions are derived and driven by our thoughts and memories of our past experiences. If those experiences were negative, our conscious and subconscious mind will tell us to avoid them in the future; on the other hand, if they are positive, they tend to instruct us to repeat them in the future. Accordingly, the human mind will constantly shuffle between the past and the future. As a result, it seldom stays in the present moment. To illustrate, while talking on the cell phone, how often do we talk about what happened or what we are going to do next? If we think more deeply, the subject of our conversation mostly involves mostly the past or the future. In a worse scenario, if you are talking or texting while driving, your mental focus is certainly not on the now—which is driving your car.

The first step to train your mind to focus more on the present is to concentrate on your breathing. Most of us are totally unaware of our breaths, unless we are short of breath after running or climbing stairs, or due to some medical conditions that may cause difficulties in breathing. Concentration on how you breathe in and breathe out, as well as your body’s sensations during the inhalation and exhalation trains you to develop mindfulness. Understand that your body is yours only, and it is always with you. Finding the moment-by-moment relationship with your body through your breathing is your pathway to wellness of the body, the mind, and the soul.

Mindfulness is your purposeful attention to the present moment. This purposeful attention enables you to recognize your thoughts as they occur, but without paying judgmental attention to them; in other words, they neither distract nor disturb you, and you just observe them objectively, like watching a movie about yourself unfolding before your very eyes.

Learn mindfulness from an expert who provides a useful guide to harness the power of your mind with mental training tools and techniques to perfect the art of mental transformation. Are you living your life, or your life living you?

Stephen Lau
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Monday, February 23, 2015

Today Is Now; Tomorrow Is Another Day

Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With the Wind said at the end: “Tomorrow is another day.”

Yes, tomorrow is another day, but that day may or may never come. Fortunately or unfortunately, we always choose to believe that it will come. Fortunately in that it may give us hope and expectation; unfortunately in that it may divorce ourselves from the realities of life, making us less grateful of the present or less thankful of what we already have.

But living in the now is exemplary of the consciousness of being. To me, today is now, and mindfulness of the present is my realization not only that tomorrow is another day but also that it may never come. This mental consciousness makes me aware that I am precious and unique because now I am fully awake. Living in the now means I have to ask myself mind-searching questions: what I need to know now; what I need to love now; what I need to be grateful for now. In short, today provides the compass and road map for my life journey, which may abruptly end tomorrow.  

Have you ever thought that human birth is unique? To me, fathoming that mystery is enough to make me become more grateful and thankful of my being.

Ernest Hemingway in his book Farewell to Arms described how once he was sitting all by himself as he watched the ants busily working under his feet, and then after a while he stamped out the ants under his feet. Tomorrow, we could become those ants. Today, living in the now ushers us into grateful living, preparing us for tomorrow, which is just another day.

How to live in the now is the big life question. I’ll talk about that next time.

As If Everything Is A Miracle: This 125-page book is about the wisdom in living as if everything is a miracle. Albert Einstein once said: "There are only two ways to live your life. One is to live as if nothing is a miracle. The other is to live as if everything is a miracle."

Life is a miracle; even your breath is a miracle in itself. To live your life as if everything is a miracle, you need wisdom of the body, the mind, and the soul. You have to rethink your mind, renew your body, and reconnect your soul—realigning your whole being to enjoy the miracle of life. Click here to download your copy.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, February 17, 2015

How to Realize Your New Year's Resolutions

Now, it is February. How are you getting on with your New Year's resolutions?

To realize your resolutions to accomplish your goals for the year, you must not procrastinate. Focusing on the NOW is the antidote to procrastination, which is the thief of time. Setting a date for a goal is only self-delusion procrastination. For example, if you wish to lose weight, you don't tell yourself that you are going to go on a diet after a buffet dinner; instead, you cut down your calories during the buffet dinner.

To accomplish any goal, you must be self-sufficient. That is, you must have what-it-takes to accomplish your goal. If your goal is to lose weight, then you must empower yourself with knowledge of weight loss, such as calories, body metabolism, exercise, and the like. Knowledge enhances your self-belief, without which you may rely on others to help you lose those extra pounds. Remember, nobody can lose those extra pounds for you.

Pursuing any goal is not easy. The pathway to success is always paved with obstacles in the form of failure, frustration, and disappointment. Remember, they may be dress rehearsals of ultimate success.

To realize your 2015 New Year's resolutions, you must be consistent and persistent to develop your habit-forming endeavors. Remember, man is habitual. Form the habit of doing and redoing that may rebuild your self-confidence and self-belief.

Finally, no matter what, do not quit. Learn how to quit quitting. To realize all your goals, you must pursue them one by one, and one at a time. Success in realizing your New Year's resolutions holds the key to attaining happiness in 2015 and beyond.

Living  is never simple. Getting what you want from life is even more difficult. Read my book The Book of Life and Living to get the wisdom to live as if everything is a miracle. To get the Amazon Kindle version of The Book of Life and Living, click here; to get the paperback edition, click hereor to get a digital copy from Clickbank, click here.

Also, visit my website: Wisdom in Living.  

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, February 10, 2015

How to Change the Mind

The human mind is complex: it is composed of a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. In your conscious mind, you input what you want to remember and store it there. Your decisions and actions in life are based on the information stored in your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind involuntarily receives information that you are exposed to through your five senses, such as hearing, seeing, touching, smelling, and tasting. Your subconscious mind does not filter the input; in other words, you may not want to remember the information but the input is subconscious. But it is your subconscious mind that controls and dominates your conscious mind. An example, commercials bombard you with images of a product, and over time you may become affected or influenced by those images even though your conscious mind rejects them.
Accordingly, you can change your subconscious mind for life transformation. Target your subconscious mind, and not your conscious mind.

Empower the mind with subliminal messages, which work as a mild form of self-hypnosis -- slowly and gradually sending suggestions into your subconscious mind to change any incorrect self-beliefs, wrong ways of thinking, and even undesirable patterns of behavior. These subliminal messages allow you not only to bypass your "logical" conscious mind but also to overcome any resistance that may hold you back, thereby enabling you to access your subconscious mind with positive messages for mind empowering. Because of this state-of-the-art technology, you can develop in ways which would not be normally possible with your conscious personal development alone. Subliminal messages are powerful tools for mind empowering. Science and technology have made it possible to increase mind power to live a better life.

Once you have mastered the subliminal messages, you can master your mind by controlling its thoughts. Remember, you are your thoughts, and your life is a byproduct of you thoughts. As Napoleon Hill, the famous writer, said: "What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve." Yes, you can achieve success in your career, weight loss, relationships, or just about anything.

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A Course in Mind Power: Learn the untold secrets to unleashing your super mind power to transform your life to overcome your life stressors. Life is always mind over matter.

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